When I became pregnant I knew that I would have a natural birth. There was no question about it, really. Women around the world for generations upon generations have been having babies successfully without interventions so why couldn’t I? At first I thought that I’d just handle it myself, grit my teeth and bare it, I suppose. Once I learned more about the process that your body undergoes during labor I realized I’d need something more than just will power.
we I decided the Bradley Method would be the best for us. I truly believe that this method of birthing is amazing and would be a perfect way to go IF my husband took interest in it – which he didn’t, at all. In the beginning Adam was really on board and excited to take the class with me. But, as the class crept up on us he wouldn’t even respond when I’d try to talk to him about it. When it came out how much the class cost he threw a fit. Luckily, there was a scheduling issue and I wouldn’t be able to get in a class before my due date and we cancelled.
I was really pissed off at him; I’m not going to lie. I found myself married to someone who only thought about the price of a class not about how the class would help me. My arguments about how much the class could save us if I didn’t have to get an epidural or a number of procedures that are routinely done during a woman’s labor were futile. I knew that I had to find something else that I could do on my own that wouldn’t even involve my husband. At one point I was so mad about it that I considered not letting him in the room at all!
During one of my prenatal appointments I told my midwife that Bradley was out the window and I think she breathed a sigh of relief (she wasn’t really keen on Bradley, either). She mentioned hypnosis for childbirth and it kind of stuck with me. It’s better than just going with the flow, I bet, so why not? I decided to get Hypnobabies home study because I could do it all on my own and the investment wasn’t much at all.
And you know what? I freaking love my husband for being a thorn in my side and not being on board with taking the Bradley classes. Not only did Hypnobabies work amazingly well for me (and I was a slacker and I didn’t even use it during half of my labor – which I kick myself in the ass for) but I can seriously say that my labor was pain free. I mean, yeah I felt lots of pressure, pulling, stretching and discomfort but I was expecting that. I never got that “ring of fire”, I never screamed out obscenities, cursed my husband for making me pregnant, or any of those stupid clichés that you see in the movies. I did some hard work and thoroughly enjoyed my daughter’s birthday without any drugs. Not even an IV.
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you are right” ~ Henry Ford
What I believe is this: mind over matter. Do you think labor is going to hurt like hell and is going to be one of the most agonizing events you will ever experience in your whole life? Well, congratulations, you’re correct! Do you think that child birth is natural, normal, easy and your body can do it sans pain? Ya know, you’re right, too! Childbirth has a lot to do with how you perceive childbirth to be. If you tell yourself 10 million times that it won’t hurt if you let your body do what it’s supposed to do and don’t fight it then will it? Probably not… If you tell yourself and listen to everyone else telling you that it’s going to be excruciatingly bad then girl, it’s going to be.
Bottom line is, hypnosis works but it takes work. You have to open yourself up to the notion of hypnosis and believe in it. You have to practice it, and practice it often. Once you believe in it and you practice it often you can reprogram your subconscious to believe loads of things. I convinced myself I’d have a natural, normal, healthy, fast, easy, pain-free birth using Hypnobabies and you know what? I totally did.
If you’re interested in reading my birth story you can do so here.